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Originally Posted by xxxafterglow
It's courtesy, man!
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Which is exactly the point...none of these specific issues have any meaning whatsoever, and they distract from what's actually important. Communicate and be courteous and the rest tends to fall into place. My relationship with
onodrim - going on 8 years - didn't get where it is by assuming men and women are fundamentally different.
I made a point to use language that was already in this thread. I didn't make up the idea of calling men lowly, confused, poor, or servants - these are all characterizations that existed in this thread before I responded. "Women and men are different" is only accurate insofar as
people are different, which is again exactly the point I was making. You asked "If the men out there can explain why Sex in the City is such a great show, please stand up (the answer is not "shoes")." Thing is, I don't know many
women who can answer that. In fact, most women I know significantly dislike the show. Generalizing between men and women creates an "us vs them" mentality that is not conducive to a healthy relationship or good communication. It creates a paradigm for relationships that there will always be conflict and always be misunderstanding. Throw out the men vs women mentality and then real communication can take place. Communication which isn't based on any assumptions regarding how one thinks or ought to think because of what genitalia they have.
EDIT: heh, see? Onodrim and I - female and male - think pretty much the same on this issue. I didn't even know she was responding
