thanks for being patient... I did get this PM.
from the anon
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Originally Posted by abaya
Now, the important question is, let's say she does start exercising regularly and makes a lot of effort to lose weight, but she doesn't get down to an "ideal" size for you. Are you still going to be happy with that? I would hope that the issue is really about her *trying* to lose weight, rather than her appearance in itself. But if you're really just about wanting to bang hot, skinny chicks, and it's not about character at all... well, you might as well be honest and break it off cleanly right now, because that's not going to change. She may never be hot and skinny, but she might try harder to stay in shape. Will that be good enough for you?
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Yes. If she tries her hardest to get in shape and it doesn't end up working, then I'll be perfectly fine. As long as she tried her best.
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Originally Posted by *Nikki*
IS the issue her body OR the fact that you have only been with one woman and desire more?
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It's not that I've only been with one woman, but more of I've only been with one body style of woman. If she lost weight I would experience a relationship with a woman of a different body style and that's part of why I want her to lose weight.
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Originally Posted by Nimetic
20 pounds in 2wks is crazy and probably not sustainable. A realistic expectation might be a couple of pounds per month. I'd be thinking that the main goal is to get used to doing some physical activity and to get comfortable with that. Weight loss is just the eventual side effect.
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About 9 months ago we both went on a lifestyle change. I was severely overweight and so was she. We both started eating healthy and drastically lesser portions of food. We also stopped eating out as much which saved lots of money. 9 months later, I've lost a huge amount of weight and she's lost nothing. Neither of us exercise. The 2 weeks we both exercised she lost 20 pounds in those 2 weeks but she gained it back because she hates getting sweaty.
So I guess it's disheartening for her that I've lost so much weight by going on the same "diet" that she has and she's lost nothing. But exercising does work for her, she's just not motivated to do it. She refuses to go to the gym or use her workout stepup box in our apartment.
I've talked to her about me wanting her to lose weight and she always gets extremely offended and won't talk about it saying that I should accept her the way she is. She's around 100 pounds overweight.
I don't understand why she won't exercise to lose the weight now that she knows it works.
Thanks for the comments everyone. I'm really impressed with the advice!!!!![/QUOTE]
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