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Sultana · 09-28-2007, 10:51 AM

I've been talking a lot with a friend who is very big on setting goals, and not wasting time in activities that don't further her goals. She says that this kind of attitude should be somewhat applied even in the dating arena (of course she would, that's how she lives her life).

Faced with the prospect of dating again (haven't dated since I was 19), and recognizing that I do want to someday have a serious relationship (I think), I figure it wouldn't hurt to make a list of the qualities I want in an SO. I'd love to see yours as well.

I'd like to request that in order to make this list highly pertinent, we leave out things that are essentially generally accepted, like good hygenie and doesn't torture kittens. Those are no-brainers. Make this specific to you and what you want out of life.

Also, try to make it positive-oriented; not "Not Possessive". "Not Possessive" does not describe the specifics of what you actually want.

OK, here goes for me:

1) Great sense of humor
2) Social
3) Open-minded, while still preserving his own viewpoint
4) Completed with their formal education (I am NOT putting another guy through college. Sorry.)
5) Self-supporting, financially
6) Self-supporting, emotionally (doesn't *need* me to make him happy.)
7) Sexually adventurous and physically capable (I will NEVER again settle in this dept. No way, no how.)
8) Great conversationalist
9) Not religious
10) Has good manners (opens the door for me and other ladies, is timely, etc.)

Bonus Round: Good dresser, and no kids. These aren't necessarily dealbreakers, but things I highly prefer. Oh, and he should be OK with cats.

Alright, I can see I actually have a lot more than 10 for my list, but that's good enough for now. Let's see what's important to you guys!

09-28-2007, 10:51 AM	#1 (permalink)
Sultana Falling Angel Location: L.A. L.A. land	10 Necessary Qualities in a Guy I've been talking a lot with a friend who is very big on setting goals, and not wasting time in activities that don't further her goals. She says that this kind of attitude should be somewhat applied even in the dating arena (of course she would, that's how she lives her life). Faced with the prospect of dating again (haven't dated since I was 19), and recognizing that I do want to someday have a serious relationship (I think), I figure it wouldn't hurt to make a list of the qualities I want in an SO. I'd love to see yours as well. I'd like to request that in order to make this list highly pertinent, we leave out things that are essentially generally accepted, like good hygenie and doesn't torture kittens. Those are no-brainers. Make this specific to you and what you want out of life. Also, try to make it positive-oriented; not "Not Possessive". "Not Possessive" does not describe the specifics of what you actually want. OK, here goes for me: 1) Great sense of humor 2) Social 3) Open-minded, while still preserving his own viewpoint 4) Completed with their formal education (I am NOT putting another guy through college. Sorry.) 5) Self-supporting, financially 6) Self-supporting, emotionally (doesn't need me to make him happy.) 7) Sexually adventurous and physically capable (I will NEVER again settle in this dept. No way, no how.) 8) Great conversationalist 9) Not religious 10) Has good manners (opens the door for me and other ladies, is timely, etc.) Bonus Round: Good dresser, and no kids. These aren't necessarily dealbreakers, but things I highly prefer. Oh, and he should be OK with cats. Alright, I can see I actually have a lot more than 10 for my list, but that's good enough for now. Let's see what's important to you guys! __________________ "Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come." - Matt Groening My goal? To fulfill my potential.