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xxxafterglow · 09-27-2007, 11:10 AM

Yeah you should talk to her about it. It might help to offer to start a healthy lifestyle with her - e.g. set a bike date together three times a week, take up tennis together, offer to do the food shopping and cook and start adjusting your diet if needed (this can help a LOT - cut out sodas, bleached-out grains like white bread, etc. and introduce lean meats, more vegetables and more fruits).

Although you can't force her to change, you can demonstrate that you are committed to a long and healthy life together... and that you are willing to suffer (only initially!) alongside her. If you can be honest with her and tell her that you are finding her less attractive, maybe that will motivate her. Truth hurts, truth helps.

She does want to change, it's just a matter of her getting up and doing it. She should know that her issues are affecting you (negatively) as well & will hopefully be moved to do something about it.

If she still refuses to have a healthy lifestyle and you love her enough to marry her, realize that you can't force her to change and focus on yourself instead. Perhaps she'll come around when she sees her sexy hubby taking care of himself and turning heads in public.

Good luck, man. I respect your honesty.

09-27-2007, 11:10 AM	#19 (permalink)
xxxafterglow Crazy Location: Berlin	Yeah you should talk to her about it. It might help to offer to start a healthy lifestyle with her - e.g. set a bike date together three times a week, take up tennis together, offer to do the food shopping and cook and start adjusting your diet if needed (this can help a LOT - cut out sodas, bleached-out grains like white bread, etc. and introduce lean meats, more vegetables and more fruits). Although you can't force her to change, you can demonstrate that you are committed to a long and healthy life together... and that you are willing to suffer (only initially!) alongside her. If you can be honest with her and tell her that you are finding her less attractive, maybe that will motivate her. Truth hurts, truth helps. She does want to change, it's just a matter of her getting up and doing it. She should know that her issues are affecting you (negatively) as well & will hopefully be moved to do something about it. If she still refuses to have a healthy lifestyle and you love her enough to marry her, realize that you can't force her to change and focus on yourself instead. Perhaps she'll come around when she sees her sexy hubby taking care of himself and turning heads in public. Good luck, man. I respect your honesty. __________________ Uh huh her. Last edited by xxxafterglow; 09-27-2007 at 11:17 AM..