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Originally Posted by abaya
Now, the important question is, let's say she does start exercising regularly and makes a lot of effort to lose weight, but she doesn't get down to an "ideal" size for you. Are you still going to be happy with that? I would hope that the issue is really about her *trying* to lose weight, rather than her appearance in itself. But if you're really just about wanting to bang hot, skinny chicks, and it's not about character at all... well, you might as well be honest and break it off cleanly right now, because that's not going to change. She may never be hot and skinny, but she might try harder to stay in shape. Will that be good enough for you?
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Well honestly I don't think if she does exercise and eat healthy that the weight will be a problem, no one violates the laws of physics and everyone who says 'I do everything right and can't lose weight' is not doing it right. This statement always gets me into 'trouble' but I never saw a fat person after a survival situation or the like, EVERYONE can get into shape.
But as a hypothetical, lets say this were true. Really there is nothing wrong with wanting to be attracted to your SO. Obviously hes not out to bang hot skinny chicks from the OP, but shes crossed the line from fat to grossly fat. That to me shows a lack of respect to his needs as well as her own issues. I think there should be an addition to the standard wedding vows to 'do my best to stay attractive to you'. I'm at that age where the first round of 'real' divorces are hitting and letting yourself go is a big part of it (by real I don't mean kids getting married at 20 and divorcing at 24, but house, 2 kids, that sort of thing).
To our unknown poster I will offer this. If she decided to work out a bit and lose weight, be sure its HER desire for herself not just to please you. I know this sounds contradictory to some of what I said above but its a long term motivation thing. If shes ONLY doing it for you, and to keep you happy/around sooner or later, mostly sooner she will quit and be right back to where she is. Its hard to motivate yourself to do something they don't want to do for an external reason, and once shes married...well it won't happen at least not to any great extent.