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Originally Posted by SecretMethod70
For example, the story in the article where the author tells his friend "I resent you for not inviting me to your wedding (and this is why)." There's a huge difference between saying that and "You should have invited me to your wedding, jerk."
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Then it's really not so radical. It's the same old formula of communicating with "I feel" statements, which can be very effective (and is nothing new). You know, the good ol, "I feel X when you do Y behavior, can we talk about that?"... so that you take responsibility for your feelings, but also honestly address the root of it with the other person. The key thing is to never expect the other person to change, but at least make them aware of how their behavior is affecting you... which is fair 'nuff.
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Originally Posted by Ustwo
Radical honesty would be to say: 'Well you might have a chance if you lost 100 pounds and moved out of your parents house.'
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Yes, but why the heck would you even say this in the first place, unless that person asked you for advice on getting a chance?...