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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
Well your wife doesn't have a problem with it. Some other people might. All of this just sounds like pre-possession with self over the feelings of other people.
Now I don't advocate for coddling or lying. I suppose I adhere to a version of the old 'if you can't say something nice' adage. For example, I have a daughter who is fat. Not morbidly obese, but fat. I try to encourage her to eat better and take an interest in her health. She doesn't. I tell her the clothing that I think is most flattering on her, but she wears whatever the hell she wants to wear. And I leave it at that. She knows she is fat and she doesn't need that fact to be pointed out to her anymore than an amputee needs to be told they don't have legs.
oh, and the idea of telling someone that their fatness makes you uncomfortable is serving no greater purpose than airing notions you have in your own head that are your own responsibility to deal with. Not the fat person's sitting next to you.
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The thing is, that there are too many people who don't think they are fat, or lazy or ignorant. If the subject comes up then I'll say what I want to say. What's the difference in me saying "I think you could lose weight" vs "I think you're fat"? It says the same thing. If the person takes offense towards it, then that's their own problem. People have become too PC and defensive when it comes to their problems and lives and it's created too many problems. As I said, people should take a more honest and blunt approach towards <i>themselves</i> first.. then if it needs to be directed towards others..then so be it.
I've never said that a person being fat makes me uncomfortable.. they are fat.. it's their problem.. not mine. I'm just saying if they ask me if they are fat I will tell them they are. An employee asks me what I think of an idea.. I tell them honestly. Alot more seems to get done that way.. whether they call me an asshole or not.. the point was made and the results came.