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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
How about being radically honest and admit that there's nothing to gain but smug self-gratification in calling someone fat or any other rude comment that only serves to make you feel better than someone else.
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I see the other side of this. I think most people don't tell people they are fat, or they are stupid or whatever, because they will feel better if they don't. They lull themselves into thinking they did a good deed by not telling the person they need to lose weight then go behind their backs and start talking shit.
I've always been told I was too blunt. Am I really? Things are how they are and while some instances may work better with tact, it has always served me well to be blunt and honest. If my wife asks me if her dress makes her look fat.. and it does.. then I tell her yes. She laughs and wears it if she wants to.. she doesn't need my approval for how she looks, she just likes to ask.
For people who constantly need approval for their actions they would be much better off taking this sort of stance with themselves first and foremost before they tried to employ it with other people. This isn't just about fat or not, it's about everything you do.
"Damn, I did a shitty job at work today" vs, "I'm just tired" or "I'm jaded, I need a vacation"
I'd be very interested in seeing how things worked out in society if more people were brutally honest with themselves and with others. I know I prefer it that way.