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I like that a lot of people are boiling down this whole idea into calling people fat, when the guy's intention is constructive and his whole mission is creating communication.
Nowhere in the article, or in the posts that support it, has anyone said they simply want to tell people they're fat.
A lot of you are trying to condense this whole idea down into a sound bite, "you're fat", which does not at all represent what the guy in the article was preaching. The whole point of Blanton's idea is that constant, unrestrained honesty opens communication.
No one in support of "brutal honesty" has said they just blurt out whatever random thing enters their mind, simply for the sake of saying it. I think some of you are getting carried away with your torch-and-pitch-fork-mob anger.
There's a big difference between...
"you're dressed like an idiot"
vs.
"The way you've dressed yourself is ludicrous and I'm embarrassed to be here with you."
The first is what many of you seem to be stuck on as an idea- the second is what this thread is actually discussing. The second opens communication. You're expressing your discomfort and its source, in order to be open and to share, rather than bottle up, that which bothers you.
And then there's everyone's favorite:
"You're fat"
vs.
"I resent how fat you are, because it makes me uncomfortable."
Again, many of you are boiling down statement 2, which is the whole idea of the "brutal honesty", into statement 1, which IS just being an asshole when out of context. The only time it would be IN context is if someone says, "am I fat?" and you simply answer yes, "you're fat"- and then that's not being an asshole, or unleashing your opinion on another just feel better about yourself, they asked and you responded honestly and without deception.
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