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Originally Posted by Ustwo
It only doesn't work because we are conditioned for it not to work. When you expect pleasant lies you don't react well to the truth. We tip toe around problems, be it social, governmental, or otherwise. I agree that its useful to lie or not tell the whole truth, but only because we expect our egos to be so sheltered and take great offense when anyone dares say something negative. I think a lot more good could come out of people saying what they are really thinking or feeling. Do I think this will ever happen? No, of course not, but personally I would rather have an honest assessment, even if I don't agree with it, then someone blowing sunshine up my ass.
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1. I don't want sunshine blown up my ass, but I also couldn't care less what the guy changing the oil in my car thinks of my appearance. I don't respect his opinion of my appearance and it isn't relevant to the social interaction. His honest assessment of the state of the oil in my car is relevant. I appreciate honest assessments from individuals, but only those domains that are relevant to the social interaction.
2. I don't think that we are conditioned to be deceptive. I also don't think that deception arises out of a desire to shelter our egos (as though all people want to be deceived). I do think that people are often unable to distinguish between honesty and deception.