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Originally Posted by creepysusie
I completely understand where you are coming from. I grew up in a paranoid asian family where it was really hard to make friends. But since graduating from highschool, I learned something very valuable about myself that can be helpful to you.
I put on a "facade" of who I want to be when I meet new people. Technically I am not "being someone else" because this person is who I want to be. It's kind of the idea of pretending to be a braver person in order to become a braver person.
I made many friends in university and I never really have to be someone else because once you by pass that initial stage and they have befriended you, it's almost locked in.
But by all means, in order for this to work, you have to go out. Join clubs. Find some sort of organization that means a lot to you. Go to the women's center at the school. There are so many resources at colleges and universities that should not be overlooked.
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Thank you for your advice, but my problem is that I just graduated university last May. I wasted too many opportunities in retrospect. I was finally starting to open up and socialize and then it was all over and now I'm not close enough to my college friends to keep in contact with them (I talk to them online occassionally, but the conversation always dies because we don't have much to say beyond, "Hello, how are you?"
) The one friend I have been keeping in contact with, I've sort of fallen out of contact with lately because I'm at work during the times when I used to call him.
I'm not sure if it's a good thing or a bad thing (probably good) that lately I've been spending most of my waking time at my new job doing mostly sewing and weaving. I go to my boss's house in the afternoon, spend all night doing arts-and-crafts type jobs for her, eat dinner there, work some more, come home, waste a few hours online, and then go to sleep to do the same thing the next day. At least this is an improvement because I'm doing something productive with myself instead of stressing out that I can't make any progress. However, this job is probably temporary and I still need to find a day job, so to speak, and learn to drive but I haven't had time because I'm tired from working so much and I'm afraid I'd crash the car if I try to drive in that state.
I also read about a vitamin that is supposed to help depressed people, called Sam-E. It seems over-priced to me, but I decided to buy one bottle (which lasts 45 days) and see if it helps any. Has anyone here heard of this? I just started taking it yesterday so I obviously don't expect results so soon, but I was wondering if I can expect to know if it works for me before the 45 days is up. Thanks
