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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
It's simple, as a human being (I'm speaking for myself here) I'm selfish. I DO rejoice that a loved one is with God and their loved ones that have passed on previously (as that is what I believe). I grieve for myself and what I will no longer have in my every day life.
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Sorry but I don't buy it, I'm not saying you don't think thats your reason, I'm saying calling grief selfishness sounds like sophistry to justify the concept.
We are all selfish of course but a common lament among survivors in some tragedy where they lost a love one is they wish they had died instead of their wife/child etc.
I know I would take a bullet for my kids but it wouldn't be because I was so selfish I couldn't stand the grief, but because I want them to be ALIVE because I care for them so much.
But lets say I'm wrong, it is the selfishness...
Then why are people not happy when they themselves get a terminal illness? It should be like winning the lottery, you not only get to see god and family (who aren't in hell of course) but you get time to say goodbye and wish them to hurry along and come see you soon.
I do believe religion is that comfort for some people, but its a hallow empty comfort of make believe and tricking yourself in your grief to believe that maybe, some day you will see them again.
The thing is I'm not sure it is the right thing. I think people would think of life as a lot more precious if they couldn't limit its importance with a myth of immortality.