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Originally Posted by Infinite_Loser
I'm just speaking the truth. Humans are very egocentric and, as a result, are prone to selfish/jealous tendencies. No one-- Regardless of who you are-- Is an exception to this rule. The problem with relationships involving more than two people is that it requires one person to accept the fact that they're going to receive less attention than another party member. While said situation might work in the short-run, it won't work indefinitely as simple human nature will kick in and cause the least favored party to feel as if they have to 'compete' with the other for attention. The best example I can give of this is simple sibling rivalry. Here you have one child who feels threatened by the other child, and as a result acts out in hopes of garnering the attention of his/her parents (Granted, this is a slightly simplified view). Such occurances have been observed to happen time and time again in nearly all human interactions and your situation is no different.
Human interaction is complex, but you're still prone to basic tendencies.
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I know I'm late into this discussion but your scenario fails in one very crucial regard that is also, from what I've gathered, of the outmost importance in a poly relationship.
The natural continuation in your scenario is that after some time rebelling the child who feels unloved reconciles with his situation and makes the best of it, in the end he/she finds that he/she isn't less loved but loved equally. (I speak from personal experience here as I have 2 younger siblings and one older brother, I've been on both sides of this fence).
I agree with you that humans are basically egotistical in their nature but given the choice of giving up someone you love dearly or sharing him/her while he/she shares you with others, would sharing and being shared sound like such a bad idea?
I doubt I'd ever function in that kind of relationship but I've never been in one so there is no way for me to know for sure. But given the choices I'd say sharing and being shared is way (double waaaay
) better an option than being alone looking for a new, nonexistent, True Love. (Ok I'm a bit cynical.. so sue me..
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