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Y'all are entitled to your opinions about poly relationships being "doomed to failure" but I have to join ratbastid in taking issue with it. I'm sure you all have perfectly valid observations of other couples (trios? whatever...) but we're not them and it's kind of hard not to take the sweeping generalizations personally.
Marriage is hard. Relationships are hard. Most of them end, for any number of reasons. When most people can't even manage to keep a dyad intact, it's easy to understand why people would be skeptical of something unconventional. But the things that make a good marriage work are the things that make a poly relationship work: communication, concern for your partners' happiness, responsibility, and willingness to do what it takes to make things work.
All the nonsense about "swingers" vs. "poly" is just semantics as far as I'm concerned. Every couple, regardless of how they define themselves, works out their own boundaries and expectations. Some people are into "alternative" relationships for the sex, some for the novelty of new relationships, some for the relationship aspects, whatever. Far as I'm concerned it's none of my business what people's predilections are as long as everything is consensual and brings more love into the world.
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"If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing."
- Anatole France
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