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Originally Posted by Infinite_Loser
No, this is different :P
You can't pull up any statistic which supports that claim because it's simple not true.
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Marriage has a close to (if not by now over)60% failure rate and I don't know of anyone my generation who is happily married. Since polyamourous relationships are not widely studied yet, your views are simply your views and not based on any statistics. If that is a wrong assumption, I'm sure you would cite something to back up your claim.
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That's completely and totally untrue, otherwise the majority of the world would be polygamous as most religions have openly polygamous relationships (Christianity and Islam, anyone?).
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Actually, a great deal of the world IS polygamous. And various reports have stated that over half of all married men have cheated during their married life at least once.
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...I'm sorry, and polygamy isn't? I don't see what point you're trying to make.
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ALL relationship dynamics are based on choice. That's the point.
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I answered this earlier but, you can't love two people exactly the same. It's impossible. You will ALWAYS love one person moreso than another one, and this will put a strain on any relationship sooner or later. Period.
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Are you speaking from experience? One can love more than one and it would be different because each person is different. You can't even love your own kids the same, it'd be no different than that. Your best bet would be to speak to people who are in poly situations. Until then, you make conjecture with no back-up at all, even anecdotal.
As Hyancinthe pointed out, if you only knew poly as the norm, you would only have that to go by.
You haven't presented one thing that supports your assertion that monogamy is instinctive or that polyamorous is a certainty of failure. Only time monogamy has been a proven fact is with geese.
I think this states it best:
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Love is an infinite resource. This is the most important message of polyamory. Do we restrict our friendships to a single companion? Can we exhaust our ability to love by having too many children? Love for another does not diminish or alter our love for existing partners. It enhances it. More partners allow us to experience ourselves in different ways and fulfill more of our potentials. We become more integrated and are less likely to resent a monogamous partner because of unmet needs. If we cannot understand people who are drawn to this lifestyle, we can at least appreciate their commitment to the idea of love as boundless and infinite.
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