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A most interesting question indeed.
As you say, guys do this too, and I think it could be for much of the same reasons. But it really is a subjective issue.
So I'm going to offer some reasons, and I really don't speak on behalf of anyone. These are just from what I've observed with friends and personal experience.
I think a lot of the time, people don't really do it intentionally. It's more a case of they don't really know where things are going, how sure they are about committing to a particular person, but they're just seeing how it goes anyway.
I've had a few friends who are single and all of a sudden two people are interesting in them and don't quite know which they should choose, or even if they should be with either.
And then there are people who are just plain indecisive or change their mind easily.
You might argue why people aren't more upfront about it from the beginning, but I guess people are afraid of hurting the others feelings, or maybe not so great at saying no?
I don't really think it's a simple issue, and as I said, it really is a subjective issue.
From what I've noticed, there is the perception of being lead on by the person who suddenly found themselves dumped. And then there is overt leading on, the nasty kind, where someone makes their partner believe everything is going great when they really have no intention of it getting serious.
At the end of the day it's a communication issue I feel.
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