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I, for one, found Midnight's post informative. I think part of the reason we date is to find out what we can and what we can't tolerate in people. I do think that her post is slightly over-reactive to a specific person / specific persons in her past, but we ALL do that. We all date someone who has quality X, and swear we never will again.
Men always say that women don't want the things they say they want. Generally, I think we do... there are just other things we want to that we either don't realise we want, or don't want to say we want. The other problem is that the people we are attracted to are not necessarily the people we are happy with long term. In other words, we want someone who can kiss and cuddle with, but we're attracted to the guy who is never available (men do the same by the way, they want an intelligent woman but are blinded by the fluffy girl with the fit body). Hopefully, we grasp some emotional maturity as we grow up and learn to be patient and observe people with some objectivity rather than being blinded by sheer emotion.
To answer Tec's question - I really desire a man who is thinking about me, and shows it in subtle ways like picking up on the fact that I hint that I might not like pickles, then at a later date reminding the server at a restaurant not to put pickles in my burger because I don't like them... or remembering that I like a certain band, and buying their new CD for me 5 months later when it gets released. Or noticing that I don't like dishes to be left unwashed overnight, and that I always like to leave the kitchen spotless... and making an effort not to make a mess if he goes in late at night to make some toast for himself. It IS the thought that counts, for me at least. If a man is showing the effort to at least try to be considerate and thoughtful, that goes a long way in my book.
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