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The reason this thread got out of control is that asking women what they want in men is not particulaly useful.
When I was in my 20s I'd see Cosmo articles or Oprah shows in which women complain about the men they've been dating and describe that kind of men they'd like to meet. These things were a temporary ego boost because I generally fit the description: I had a steady job, a car, I didn't live with my parents, I would call when I said I would, I did not abuse achohol or drugs.
But when attempting to date women on real life, I found out that these qualities didn't really matter. In fact, guys who fit the description of what women DON'T were more likely to get dates & girlfriends easily. One magazine article I saw expressed the dicotomy quite well: "No Woman Wants a Sleep-Around Guy." This makes as much sense as "no one buys best sellers." If no woman wants him, then how can be be a sleep-around guy?
I've noticed that this section doesn't have the endless "nice guy vs. jerks" discussions that fill up other relationship forums, I don't want to start one now. But I will say that that for both genders, what they think they want intellectually is not the same what actually triggers romantic/sexual interest.
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