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Originally Posted by ratbastid
Dude. Classic defensive swinger.
Swinging and Poly are different in many, many ways. Right now MY expression of polyamory is that I live with two amazing women who I'm completely in love with, and who love me and each other totally. There's really no talk of relationships (at whatever level of seriousness) outside our triad at the moment. No swinger in the world would call that with swinging. And there are plenty of things I hear from swingers that they do or have done no polyamorist in the world would call polyamory.
Nobody's attacking any lifestyle here (well, that may not quite be accurate... let me say: I'm not attacking any lifestyle here). Swinging's fine for swingers. I'm not one, but for those who do that, it's fine. And like most aspects of sexuality and lifestyle, it's ALL grey area and points-on-a-spectrum. I know couples who have friendly sex with one good friend, and they don't consider themselves swingers OR poly.
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First of all Ratbastid, you're a lucky person to have such a relationship...
Secondly, you're right on the money. Polyamory and Swinging are not the same in any defined part of it. Swinging may lead to more intimate relationships, but Polyamory is based on them intertwining. Not being "casual" as swinging allows (though not requires). Swinging ultimately breaks down to couples while Polyamory can break down to multiple relationships co-existing and tied together, like in your case.
Just my take.