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Originally Posted by Racnad
I'm not poly (though sometimes I'd like to be), but since this the internet, I'll spout my opinion anyway.
The poly crowd defines "swinging" as sex as parties with people you barely know, while poly people are all about the relationships.
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Well... My definition of swinging
includes that. It also includes casual sex with people who are friends.
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Originally Posted by Racnad
My impression about swingers though is that many "date" other couples on a regular basis, so there is some sort of relationship that develops. And I'd fing it hard to believe that people who call themselves "poly" never on occasion hook up sexually with people they think are hot.
So I bet in reality there is a bit of overlap.
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Oh, absolutely there is. And there are hard-core people at either end of the spectrum. And there are people who partake in both sorts of activity but blanch at either term.
From what I know of swinging (and I'm open to being corrected about this), intimate romantic relationships between non-coupled people in the lifestyle is WAY taboo. Absolutely friendships develop--I don't equate swinging with anonymous sex, necessarily. But the husband of Swinging Couple A has an (implicit or expressed) understanding that his wife won't be falling in love with the husband of Swinging Couple B no matter how good of friends they become, and if she does, they have a Problem.
To a poly couple, that wouldn't be a problem at all. In fact, the husband of Poly Couple A would probably encourage it and cheer it on.
I think that right there most clearly distinguishes poly and swinging, from my perspective.
As a side note, poly folk are MUCH more accepting of gay and bisexual men than swingers are. Which is to say: they're accepting. A textbook swinging couple (and, again, I'd be delighted to be wrong about this) consists of a straight-as-an-arrow husband and a bisexual wife. Bi or gay guys are VERY much unwelcome in the lifestyle. Whereas there are lots of poly families that include same-sex relationships of both genders.
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Originally Posted by rr1024
Swingers are generally accepting of everyone and all sexualities where as the Poly people are not  |
Oookay. Tell that to a bi man at a swinger's party...
