I think the mention of communication is important. To expect a man to be "perfect" is setting yourself up for disappointment as much as it is to expect a woman to be "perfect." This is real life: we're not perfect.
If something bothers you, it doesn't help to either quietly stew over it or to be confrontational. Many things we do are habitual or related to our situation. A man who "sheds" when getting home may do so because he is completely exhausted and doesn't think it's a big deal. (My wife often "sheds" something fierce, and she has way more crap than I do.) Maybe he intends to do something with the stuff later, but gets even more exhausted as the day ends. I think this kind of thing is more habitual. Maybe this is how some of us act when we get home, and we don't realize how it affects our partners, especially if they don't say anything about it.
I think the best way to look at any of these items (and these seem to me an itemized list of "desirable traits and habits in our partners") is to realize that we are often overwhelmed with distractions. We must communicate how we feel about things, and what we expect of others...and why. If it makes sense, then you can certainly reach some compromises, and maybe even breakthrough solutions.
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Originally Posted by Lady Sage
Reminds me of my 3 letter word qualifications...
He must have a J O B
He must have a C A R
He must not live with his M O M or D A D or in the basement of any other such relative
If he has a K I D he needs to pay his child support and not be a deadbeat.
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Do you want a life partner, or a caregiver? Is there no more on this list? (Besides the massages...)