LiBan, well, you have my sympathy (for her being an annoyingly evangelical Christian) and my admiration. You ARE being bold, and brave... sometimes all we can do is fake it until it becomes real. I think you're on the right path.
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Originally Posted by Toaster126
...are you serious? What has stopped you from cutting that off?
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Yeah, I'm serious. You'd have to know my mom to really understand how the whole thing works (she has a few personality disorders, to say the least), but basically, that money is safe where it is, and it serves a kind of purpose between my mother and I. For the moment, it gives my mother the illusion that she has some "bond" with me (in her mind, financial = emotional, another hindrance to the whole thing)... which is not really true, but it's important to maintain that illusion for the sake of peace between us.
My main bank accounts are non-joint, and I've used those since high school (much to her discontent), and ktspktsp and I have a joint account of our own. I don't really need to deal with the joint w/my mom until ktspktsp and I buy a house or have kids or something else major (which will be in the next few years). And at that point, yeah, I'm gonna have to cut it off. So in summary, for the sake of my mother's sanity and a half-decent relationship with her, I'm not gonna cross that bridge until I have to. It's really that delicate of a situation, believe me... she's an incredibly volatile person, and this has to be done very carefully. Sort of like disarming a bomb.
