I do not Grok this hatred of pronography myself ( if you've read the book
warrrreagl mentioned you'll get that statement)
Lying about it is the wrong thing to do though, if she finds out is she going to be more upset that you decided to watch porn or that you've been lying to her about it for so many months?
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Tell her quite simply -"I am away from you. I AM going to need to get off. I would LOVE for it to be with you. Simple fact, you are NOT here. I think that sitting in my hotel room watching porn is acceptable. Would you honestly prefer that I go out and find a different girl night after night to take care of the fact that I would like to get off, or would you like me to be in my room, missing you, wanting you, and getting off alone while some porn is on, and I'm thinking - oh shit - i cant wait to get home and do this/try that with *girlfriends name*. Yeah hun, I DO watch porn when I'm on the road. because I love you enough not to be out screwing some nameless bimbo. Some of the other guys don't give their women that courtesy. If you have issues with me watching other couples on video - no problem. Let's set up a camera and tape US. Then I am going to be watching US, and that to me, sounds like something we could both enjoy"
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That conversation sounds like a pretty good idea to me
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While she was here I didn't watch it at all because she was here with me and I didn't need it. We're apart at the moment but I'm going home in a week and a half and we'll be together, so I won't need it. The only time I watch it is when she's not with me.
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If you make that clear to her it should solve alot of problems - you don't want porn instead of her you would prefer to have her but sometimes she's just not available.
Might help to know exactly what her objection to porn is, does she think it's exploitive, violent, voyeuristic etc etc etc