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I was her boyfriend....OK, not actually him, but I was that guy. I neglected my wife without seeing it at the time, and it is because of this that she became unhappy with our marriage. I also thought I was trying to "Fix" things about myself in an effort to save what we had, and unfortunately fixed the wrong things....heh. The similarities here are profound, as my wife also loves me very much, but she no longer felt it was enough to hold us together, and we both suffer because of it.
Likely, what we are not getting in the OP is the failure on HER part to communicate clearly what she needs to be happy. We males are not the brightest when it comes to figuring out what women truly want, let alone whats bothering them. In a way it all comes down to communication, and honesty with yourself and your SO. The OP has pretty much created her own unhappiness through a form of neglect she may not have recognized either....Neglecting to ask for what she needs.
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