Menoman

1) severe contact unless necessary (to get stuff back, switch bills around if you lived together)

2) keep BUSY, if you have been unhappy all summer, think back to when you were happy.. and do those things constantly. Also try new things, pick up a tennis racket, some golf clubs, a basketball. Whatever just stay busy.


That was advice given to me when my fiancee left me awhile back. I was in a pretty intense depression for about 2 months, (ie; go to work, go home, sleep/tv nonstop til work again, ad nadeum) I gained a fair amount of weight oddly, even though I wasn't eatting for shit etcetc... it was brutal.

The way I see it now, the greivance period doesn't have to be that long or that bad if you follow those 2 rules. Your mind will be off of the shittyness, and after a few months, after forcing yourself not to think about it, and forcing yourself to be happy. Crazily enough.... you WILL be happy, and you won't think about it much anymore.

I didn't read your entire post extremely in depth since I'm at work right now, but if this was your first love, or even if it was one of the real loves you will have. You are never going to forget it, 10 years from now something will happen, and you'll be reminded of this time, but you'll eventually just start to remember less and less and it will take a significant clue to make you rememeber again.


Those 2 rules were told to me by someone from another board, very smart person. They WORK.

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