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the whole dont ask dont tell approach doesn't work for any serious relationship. Eventually you have to know that your SO knows enough about you that if say, something comes up 10 years later in marriage, its not going to come across like you were "hiding it" If you want a completely open and honest relationship, that shit doesn't fly at all, don't preach it.
Talk to her about it and set it straight. Don't make the mistake that a lot of people seem to make with this whole "security through obscurity" approach (like zomg my relationship can't get hacked if I don't broadcast it's IP address to my gf) (ok i'm going off the geek deepend)
I AM 199% CERTAIN that you would prefer to be with her even more if you could get her to see eye to eye with you on this issue. moreover, that would be stress off your back if you could. Now, if she doesn't wanna even make an effort, make a stand, put the relationship on the line, demand perfection or compromise from your relationship, no one person should be the "boss" over your personal time damnit and you shouldn't have to hide it either.
if nothing else, you'll be free to find someone who isn't such a distrustful prude.
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