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I'm a natural flirt, Hell, I flirt and don't even realize I flirt. I was raised and developed a sort of niceness that can get me into trouble. I don't flirt to try to get women into bed though, and actually I am quite shy in that aspect, not to mention deeply in love with my wife. The way I "flirt" is to listen, talk in soft tones, hug, compliment, and show a respect that not many do.
I also realize in my business it can be very bad. Female and male clients hug me on a daily basis because they know I am one of the few people at work that truly cares and will do all I can to help them and I'm a hugger. I feel the embrace along with caring and hope in the eyes as we hug gives clients a belief that maybe there is hope for them.
My being nice to a woman client and trying to show her that she may still have some inner and outer beauty left, may help her find the courage to change what she needs to change. It may help her leave that abusive man who told her she couldn't find anyone else. It may help her self esteem and lead her to believe she doesn't need to sleep with guys, get stoned and work to please men while selling her soul.
The problem is, in my profession, I am not supposed to hug. I know someday, some woman or man will take my hug the wrong way and press the issue. I am as prepared as I can be for that day.... however, I cannot change my nature, I flirt and I hug. That's who I am, who I always will be and I like myself for that.
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I just love people who use the excuse "I use/do this because I LOVE the feeling/joy/happiness it brings me" and expect you to be ok with that as you watch them destroy their life blindly following. My response is, "I like to put forks in an eletrical socket, just LOVE that feeling, can't ever get enough of it, so will you let me put this copper fork in that electric socket?"
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