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Originally Posted by Crompsin
How do people survive divorces with children? I don't know how they do it.
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Well, it's not a question of how the adults survive. It's a question of how the *children* survive, and if they are functional or dysfunctional as a result. That, I think, is the most important thing to consider when divorcing with children. I think it's horrible when people refuse to divorce simply "because of the children." However, I think it's just as horrible when people refuse to consider the needs of their children when they are divorcing. The children's needs are not more important than the parents', but the childrens' needs ought to be considered, very strongly, when dealing with the aftershocks. That's the only way to try and prepare them for adulthood and for more successful relationships of their own. I wish my parents had put me in counseling when they split up.