tenniels

I have known a couple of people in my life that are beyond negative and they were and are both big drains on my mental energy. I quit hanging out with the one girl, but the other lady is the manager at my apartment building and I do the cleaning here, so I am unfortunately stuck interacting with her. The first girl, Tina, whined about everything and I did everything I could to make things easier for her. Say everything was bad and the last thing she wanted to do is her dishes, I would do them for her so she had one last thing to worry about, it was never enough. She liked the attention she got from having so many negative things going on in her life. My apartment manager, Kim, is worse. She has many issues, is a Jehova witness-alcoholic, but that is beyond the point. You ask her how she is, and it's always "terrible", I have a migrane, this that the other and everything under the sun is wrong. It drives me nuts. Both of these women are in my opinion sick. They like the attention negativity brings. I believe that most people who are on the negative side are not like this though, they are the severe side of the spectrum.

I tend to be on the pessimistic side, but I like to consider myself realistic. That being said, I am a generally happy person who has the capability of seeing the positive side of things when the positive side is realistic. Sometimes as JustJess mentioned, we need to vent, and then we move on and make the changes necessary to over come the negativity. I do believe that once one falls into the cycle of extreme negativity is extremely difficult to get out of it. I dunno, it's a big drain on my energy when I'm too negative and when those around me are too negative, especially when they have borderline personality disorders as I think the gals I mentioned in the first paragraph have. People who are the extreme opposite get on my nerves as well. Those nothing is ever wrong, the world is fantastic, smile all the time people tend to annoy me. Balance is key I suppose.

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