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Originally Posted by Charlatan
What are you going to do about it?
I like that. I suppose, without putting a name to it, this is what I've doing. I don't think that it is going to solve your problems but it does give a different outlook on the issue when you are being active about a solution rather than wallowing in a situation.
Which suggests that even being born into a certain station in life can be overcome. It's just the degree to which you are willing struggle to make it happen that will bring about that change. I know that sounds optimistic but know that I am not saying that you will get out of a negative situation just that taking an active role changes your perception of the event.
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Change has to be desired. The first few times that question was posed were met with "I don't know", or "I can't do it", feeding the negativity. As Roachboy said, it is easy. It's comfortable and it sucks people in.....for a second. Then they run like hell, exasperated and you're left with more negativity. I was lucky-I had friends much more tenacious than I that knew how to deliver swift metaphorical ass kicks.
Like Shesus' grandmother, I had one who did nothing but complain and lament. She had a horrible life growing up, but she had her own family and still lamented and worried and complained-she was so stuck in her youth's despair, she couldn't dig her way out right up to her death.
It's ok to bitch, to vent about one's lot in life, but along with that, some thanks should top it off and "What am I gonna do about it" should take over. People overcome poverty, disability, addictions, adversity not by complaining incessantly, but by doing something about it.
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Originally Posted by Strange Famous
by all means it's better to be happy if possible - but its a lot easier for those who are born with a silver spoon in their mouth.
what do most people know about boiling a kettle for a bath?
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More people would know about such adversities than the other way around. Here, in one week, two very famous and stinkingly wealthy women died. One was a giving philanthropist and socialite whom many adored; the other, a bitch extraordinaire. Class does not make 'class'. Wealth does not equal happiness; I daresay it would feed cynicism and mistrust.
And any time I hear someone declare their current misery is because of their lousy childhood, I'm tempted to call bullshit. If you don't like something, fix it and get over it.