Well, Sultana... I agree with you (on the stop whining part)
but you could say that women have withheld sex as a form of punishment and domination, too... not that it's any better than men taking it by force (which they are physically able to do, even if the woman does withhold it), but you can't say that some women don't use sex for manipulation, either. Then again, some people like the punishment and domination. Heh.