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in addition to anything posted above, from which rules you may select as you will o nefarious anonymous rule seeker, i will say that for me the fundamental rule i've found is not to try to harden yourself in the context of the fuck-buddy relationship. based on experience and observation, the chief mistake people make is that they try to resign themselves to a robotic sexual experience in order to keep all emotions and thoughts strictly from becoming attached.
therefore, emotions naturally become attached, but they must be suppressed, repressed, and unaddressed. they are cajoled, steamrolled, and left in a blindfold.
eventually, you look at the other person and say 'fuck you! you knew i liked hot butter on my breakfast toast. you did brag! you did boast!"
they were in the process of getting out of their car to get you a lime-ola granola chocolate slurpee at sonic. and it all seems to have come from out of no where.
that is the road to all kinds of badness. from the viewpoint as seeing the other person as a good decent person, about whom you can care but of whom you are not possessive, i think it is possible to have a happy fucking only relationship, concurrent with whatever friendship you have. if you can imagine them telling you that they've fallen in love with someone else and you being happy for them, then i think you're in the clear. when you can no longer say that, then it's time to reevaluate.
and always leave little mints on each other's pillow. it keeps things in perspective.
imagine them as a friend about whom you don't get upset when they do idiosyncratic shit like not call you on a random wednesday night to see how your day went, or when they decide they want to watch the '87 master's final on the oxygen channel, or when they don't have time to reassure you overly much about your big meeting at work the next morning. hang out with them and have a few drinks. then fuck the everloving shit out of them, and go back to the hanging out part. enjoy the ride.
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