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Hyacinthe · 08-01-2007, 04:44 PM

See I don't view it quite the same as you guys I really do see it as a 'FRIENDS with benefits'

If all I wanted was a fuck I would go get a one night stand. But I also enjoy being able to cuddle with the guy / girl afterwards and talk about various things, never had a fwb situation where I knew I wasn't welcome to stay the night for a repeat in the morning if I wanted to. I still go out with them and the rest of my friends, we'd grab dinner watch a movie etc etc really interact exactly like we did before and the majority of our mutual friends knew what was going on. However that may be my fault, he shares an apartment with a mutual friend who has a problem keeping secrets and well when there's a shared wall you kinda know when the other has a girl there either from bed heads or other noises.

Not sure about the no attraction thing either - I mean why sleep with someone you're not attracted to doesn't make sense to me. Maybe you mean someone you feel you might eventually want to have a relationship with? someone you're attracted to physically but not emotionally / mentally? I tend to pick friends who I am close to but am completely certain that I would never want to date / share my life with.

I do agree about the no expectations things, you should never expect to sleep with them unless you've established beforehand that it's going to happen. It's just a nice bonus to the friendship that you have a friend who's willing to help you and themself get their rocks off.

my fwb and myself have always ended on good terms though, nothing really changes about the relationship from before to during to after.

08-01-2007, 04:44 PM	#25 (permalink)
Hyacinthe Psycho Location: Australia	See I don't view it quite the same as you guys I really do see it as a 'FRIENDS with benefits' If all I wanted was a fuck I would go get a one night stand. But I also enjoy being able to cuddle with the guy / girl afterwards and talk about various things, never had a fwb situation where I knew I wasn't welcome to stay the night for a repeat in the morning if I wanted to. I still go out with them and the rest of my friends, we'd grab dinner watch a movie etc etc really interact exactly like we did before and the majority of our mutual friends knew what was going on. However that may be my fault, he shares an apartment with a mutual friend who has a problem keeping secrets and well when there's a shared wall you kinda know when the other has a girl there either from bed heads or other noises. Not sure about the no attraction thing either - I mean why sleep with someone you're not attracted to doesn't make sense to me. Maybe you mean someone you feel you might eventually want to have a relationship with? someone you're attracted to physically but not emotionally / mentally? I tend to pick friends who I am close to but am completely certain that I would never want to date / share my life with. I do agree about the no expectations things, you should never expect to sleep with them unless you've established beforehand that it's going to happen. It's just a nice bonus to the friendship that you have a friend who's willing to help you and themself get their rocks off. my fwb and myself have always ended on good terms though, nothing really changes about the relationship from before to during to after. __________________ "I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles even when her heart is broken... and the one that could brighten up your day even if she couldnt brighten her own" "Her emotions were clear waters. You could see the scarring and pockmarks at the bottom of the pool, but it was just a part of her landscape – the consequences of others’ actions in which she claimed no part."