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I was going to post, and then I read MrFriendly's post and I don't have a whole lot to add. Every benefits relationship I've ever seen or heard about or been a part of has ended with one or the other getting more attached than the other and then everything goes to shit.
That disclaimer aside, I think friends with benefits hook ups are best kept to pretty standard, "We're both having fun and getting our rocks off" sex. Bondage/pain kinds of things require a level of trust and intimacy that begs to disturb the delicate fw/b balance. I've had one or two friends follow the hooker rule of no kissing, though I don't really know how meaningful that is. The arrangement is essentially to have consistent one night stands with someone you trust instead of "random douche from bar." Do it and have fun, certainly, but I think going for any fetishistic play is a bad call.
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