Originally Posted by burtsbees

A friend of mine suggested that I should try pornography so that I could maybe see his "point of view." ... Well, I took her advice and I'm slightly beginning to understand how there is a difference between porn and intimacy. Porn is porn and sex with my SO is a way more different experience. I felt like I needed to do some more sexual research so I asked my bf if we could video tape us having sex. After watching it, I felt so relieved because WOW I am so damn sexy! and WOW porn and masturbation is nothing compared to this! After much consideration and after reading everyone's different opinions, I feel a lot better about myself and my relationship with my bf. I still think that downloading the pics and saving them is unappropriate, as MixedMedia has mentioned --this is about propriety. Ultimately, I have more room for forgiveness in this situation.

As for everyone wondering how I was looking through his porn...
Well, we're mac users and macs(if any are familiar with macs) always log your most recently opened programs and files. That one day I closed a window of notes that I needed again and when I went to the recently opened tab, I noticed the bunch of picture files. I guess you can wiggle your finger at me from this point because I was curious as to why he had pics of this girl I'm friends with. I used the Sherlock program to find where these pictures came from and surely enough it was in the hidden porn folder, and surprisingly there were more pictures of more friends............. and the rest is history.

If you watch porn and want to be discreet, never use a mac.

My lessons learned: 1. don't be nosy. 2. masturbation is a separate entity. 3. propriety (the word is now TATTOOed in my head).