Originally Posted by abaya

It's already been said, by people wiser than me. Off the top of my head, Mixed and Pig said it best. Xepherys and the rest of you using similar lines of argument... it's NOT about the guy masturbating while *thinking* of her friends. It's not even about porn in general. I, for one, am fine with both of those actions, and see them as very normal.

It's about the PICTURES OF HER FRIENDS. The fact that he took them, saved them, and pulls them up specifically when he wants to masturbate... would give me very, very serious pause in terms of deciding to continue the relationship. Total lack of consideration. And I don't care what gender you are... you can think about whoever you want when you masturbate, I know I do (and I don't give a rats ass who my husband is thinking about)... but the fucking pictures, are just beyond any reasonable modicum of courtesy and respect towards your significant other.

Ktspktsp and I were discussing this last night and he agrees, he would be upset if I was masturbating using pics of his best friends in Speedos, definitely... and he understands why I would be upset if he was doing the same. It's just plain inconsiderate. Discuss it first, before he even "used" the pictures for the first time... then go from there. That's what develops trust in a relationship. Not this kind of behavior, not by a long shot.