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xepherys · 07-30-2007, 10:18 AM

Wow, this is quite a thread! Honestly, I don't think it's a huge deal. I'm virtually sure that my wife has masturbated thinking of other guys she knows, maybe a friend of mine, maybe of hers, maybe just some guy she knows. Maybe a guy she works with. Who knows? You know what? Good for her! I love my wife and my wife loves me. We are very happily married. I honestly believe that part of that happiness is a pretty healthy lack of jealousy. If I caught my wife cheating on me (or vice versa) shit would hit the fan. Outside of that, masturbation, fantasy, and even harmless flirting are all part of human sexuality.

So, to those women (and men) who have said this is utterly unacceptable, do you harbor a likely false belief that your SO has never fantasized about someone they or you know? Is it only because a picture was involved that this is such a serious issue for you? Hell, I've jerked off thinking of all kinds of girls in the past, and while currently my fantasies are generally of my wife (hell, she's hot), another girl sneaks in there now and then. This doesn't mean that I would ever, EVER act on those... that's why they are fantasies. I have fantasies about my own wife that I would likely never act on. *shrug* What's the big deal?

As for loss of self confidence, I agree with several who have posted that nobody can MAKE you feel like crap. It's all up to you. 100%! If you choose to feel like crap about yourself because of someone else's actions, inactions or words, that is solely on you.

Lastly, I also agree about the privacy thing. I would never read my wife's emails or snoop about through her laptop. It's hers! I don't even open her mail, even bills in her name, unless I was told we needed to pay it ASAP when it came. I respect my wife's privacy absolutely, and therein lies a level of trust that is important, if not mandatory, for a good relationship.

07-30-2007, 10:18 AM	#90 (permalink)
xepherys <3 TFP Location: 17TLH2445607250	Wow, this is quite a thread! Honestly, I don't think it's a huge deal. I'm virtually sure that my wife has masturbated thinking of other guys she knows, maybe a friend of mine, maybe of hers, maybe just some guy she knows. Maybe a guy she works with. Who knows? You know what? Good for her! I love my wife and my wife loves me. We are very happily married. I honestly believe that part of that happiness is a pretty healthy lack of jealousy. If I caught my wife cheating on me (or vice versa) shit would hit the fan. Outside of that, masturbation, fantasy, and even harmless flirting are all part of human sexuality. So, to those women (and men) who have said this is utterly unacceptable, do you harbor a likely false belief that your SO has never fantasized about someone they or you know? Is it only because a picture was involved that this is such a serious issue for you? Hell, I've jerked off thinking of all kinds of girls in the past, and while currently my fantasies are generally of my wife (hell, she's hot), another girl sneaks in there now and then. This doesn't mean that I would ever, EVER act on those... that's why they are fantasies. I have fantasies about my own wife that I would likely never act on. shrug What's the big deal? As for loss of self confidence, I agree with several who have posted that nobody can MAKE you feel like crap. It's all up to you. 100%! If you choose to feel like crap about yourself because of someone else's actions, inactions or words, that is solely on you. Lastly, I also agree about the privacy thing. I would never read my wife's emails or snoop about through her laptop. It's hers! I don't even open her mail, even bills in her name, unless I was told we needed to pay it ASAP when it came. I respect my wife's privacy absolutely, and therein lies a level of trust that is important, if not mandatory, for a good relationship. __________________ The prospect of achieving a peace agreement with the extremist group of MILF is almost impossible... -- Emmanuel Pinol, Governor of Cotobato My Homepage