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Originally Posted by JinnKai
I am. I don't see any malicious intent on his part in downloading the pictures and placing in the same place as other pictures. He didn't say "hey honey, I'm masturbating to pictures of your friends." That'd be malicious, creepy, and insensitive. If he had simply downloaded these pictures and placed them in his "My Documents" or "My Pictures" folders, would the OP have even second-guessed it? His only lapse was a lapse in judgement, realizing that she'd overract to his placement more than his intent. I do not believe he intended to hurt her, nor do I believe that he did anything wrong. She did, by snooping in his porn folder. Even if it was within the relationship boundaries to do so, I don't think she has the right to be upset by whatever she finds in there.
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I wholeheartedly agree with you on that JinnKai, 's why I have quotations around "seemingly misplaced". There is no proof he used the pictures for mastubatory purposes, and if he did, it is still only a harmless fantasy that involves only one person's image an an alterior sexual escapade. Privacy is meant for all, even for those in commited relationships.
Hell, even in the process of cleaning out my porn files, I find an occasional mp3 or interesting landscape wallpaper in the files. Things get misplaced, along with feelings.
I encourage the OP to try to recover hers by rationalizing it with the only person who can help her find it.