Quote:
|
The fact is, people who look at porn are unlikely to meet the actual people in the porn unless they actively go out and try to do so (by attending adult entertainment expos or whatever), but if a guy is looking at his girl's friends--those are women he knows. He has met them, he probably sees them every so often, etc. That's totally different. Porn is well within the realm of healthy fantasy, but looking at your girlfriend's friends is not, just because of that very key difference--porn stars are strangers. These women were not strangers to this man.
|
So where do you draw the line, then? It seems inexplicably complex. Is a man allowed to 'fantasize' about a woman he met at a bar? He's seen her in real life, he could probably see her again - they're even a woman "he knows." Is this too close to home? What about a coworker? A cashier at the local supermarket? The next-door neighbor?
How far separated do they have to be before you draw the line? To me, it seems like an unnecessarily complex rule set for (by all appearances) no real benefit.
Bottom line, I don't how you can expect another person (particularly another male person) to have the same expectations of "distance" and somehow think that "oh, I can't masturbate thinking of this person, I see them too often."
Quote:
|
These women were not naked. They hadn't posted pictures of themselves naked on the internet for people to masturbate to.
|
Is this an issue to other women? I again do not see a difference between masturbating to clothed or unclothed women. Does being naked make them sexual objects, and being clothed makes them a person? You can only be masturbated to if you advertise your sexuality? If your friends were posting topless pictures on their mySpace, would it suddenly be OK for your boyfriend to masturbate to them, because they've advertised their sex-object status?