Jinn

So your reason is that "Not only would be it be disrespectful to me, to our relationship and to my friends, but I think it would betray a lack of judgment and character that I would find to be very dismaying."

I ignored it because it didn't make sense to me. Perhaps you could clarify?

What is inherently 'disrespectful' about him downloading pictures of naked women you know as opposed to naked women you do not know?

What 'lack of judgment' is displayed? What would he judging incorrectly? Your reaction?

How is him downloading naked pictures of women you know a demonstration of lack of character whereas downloading naked pictures of women you don't know isn't?

And as a side note, I wasn't referring to you directly in my hypothesis of poor self-confidence. My experience with you has been the opposite, but I think you're an exception to the otherwise widespread and sad prevalence of poor self-esteem in young women. The fact that you're comfortable with mainstream porn is demonstrative of your elevated confidence level, I'm just not sure why people you know are somehow off-limits.

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