Terrell

I'm also curious as to why the OP was going through her boyfriend's porn folder? Aren't there some zones of privacy, even for people in relationships? I would think that going through a guy's porn folder, unless he has previously said it's okay to do so, would be comparble to a guy going through a lady's most personal and private spaces, unless she previously said it was okay to do so.

As many of the guys have said, we do think about most of the women that we see sexually, except for the ones that we think are unattractive, on some level. That doesn't necessarily mean downloading their photos into our "wanking material" folder.

Now I do think that a guy should make an effort not to rub her face into it (on a PC that would be putting it on the desktop, or some place on the PC where she's likely to stumble across it without looking for it or making a conscuous effort to find it, rather than in a folder that is out of sight), but on the same token, the lady shouldn't be rummaging through his files to find it. This also applies to porn on DVD or VHS, (in a case where the man and lady are living together) he should keep it out of her sight (and not being so carless as to leave it in the player) and she shouldn't go out of her way to look for it.

Even in a relationship there should be some zones of privacy, that the partner doesn't intrude upon, unless the other person offers permission for it. (it's inapropriate to ask in my opinion).