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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
I cannot believe this load of crap Im reading
Its no big deal
Give him something to remember in bed
This shouldnt have ANY affect on your self esteem
jesus people.....if you dont have a relationship where you sit and tell your SO to their face that you fantasize about the friends, this this can just be devastating one ones self esteem....Im not saying maybe there were not issues of her own but this is certainly NOT going to help
I thank god Im married to a man that thinks this particular situation and his behavior is as creepy as I do (please keep in mind we say IF you dont have the kind of relationship where that "fantasizing about others" is ok)
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Shani, I think your post points to the same place mine does, especially in the last paragraph.
People treat this situation through their "IS"es about it. It "IS" devastating. It "IS" a blow to her self-esteem. It "IS" creepy and he "IS" an asshole.
I call bullshit. It is those things
only if she lets it be. Your relationship and mine are evidence that there's no absolutes out there in the universe about it. Especially when it comes to relationships, our interpretation of events is what we then call "the truth". And although there is usually SOME automatic interpretation, ultimately we're in control of how we're going to interpret things.