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Old 07-19-2007, 08:06 AM   #22 (permalink)
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What I really need (want) is someone's HONEST opinion of how good I look. As I write this it seems so superficial and vain of me to say all this, but I'm the type of person that if I can get my hands on facts (I know everyone's opinion is different, but one honest opinion is better than none), I think I'll be able to see where I'm at, then improve upon myself accordingly (i.e. hair, style, character, etc).
Two things:

1) You'll never get an "HONEST" factual opinion about your appearance. Even in the amazing anonymity of the internet, people will still soften their opinions of you so that they're not truly critical.

2) There is no "Fact" about how you look. I know people who would look at me and give a 5 out of 10, and I know people who think I'm an 8. There's a MASSIVE amount of processing that goes into facial recognition and attraction.

Some people like symmetry across the bridge of the nose. Some people like asymmetry. Some people like Nordic eyes / cheekbones. Some don't. Some like pronounced chins, some don't. Some like wide-eyed faces with eyes spread far from each other. Some people like eyes very close together.

There's no universal "fact" about how you appear to others, or how attractive you'll be. I think I'm a goofy motherfucker, but my girlfriend seems to like it.

You're better off trying to find groups of people more likely to be interested in your face/body/personality type then changing your face/body/personality type to aim at a different group.

This is an obvious case for changing the audience, not the actor,
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