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ForgottenKnight · 07-19-2007, 03:52 AM

I'm going to jump in here and say something for the first time in a very long time.

First, thank you all who responded to Spot1021's post.

Second, I would like to say I'm in a similar situation. I'm 24. I'll turn 25 in a few weeks and being a virgin at 25 started to scare the crap out of me. Long story short, I was questioning every belief I normally stand for and was going to abandon some of them just to have sex with a stranger from the casual encounters section of craigslist. I would like to note that she is probably one of the hottest woman (and hottest asses) I have ever seen a photo of, and would have been fulfilling her fantasy in order to have sex. But I no longer think that a one night stand, or a series of such, is something I really want to do. My very good friend MrRevolver and I were chatting and we concluded that to answer some of my questions I should look here. But instead of finding the answer to the question I came here looking for, the question I have been asking myself and choosing to ignore has been presented. Kangaeru said it best, "What do you stand for?" And in reading all the responses, I came to realize the answer to the question before it was even asked. What do I stand for? While I may have to still sort out a few things, I know what I don't stand for: what I was about to become.

I almost rushed into a lifestyle I partly idealized and partly hated, without thinking of the consequences. I started taking action without thinking it through, and had I continued along the lines of those actions, I would have ended up regretting it. I have some friends who push me to go get laid despite my resistance (and really bad luck at the bars when I did try) have slowly refined some of my social skills, but at the same time were turning me to become just like them. They were only looking at the recreational side of sex, but not the fact that they're all single, not able to hold down a lasting relationship, single parents or paying child support, and fighting with their exes. And I was seeing only the number of years old I was and looking at it from their views and beliefs, but not my own. Their want for me to join them in having sex all the time with random people for the pleasure of it is not what I really want. I'd rather have the pure long lasting relationships of some of my other friends who abstain from sex before marriage or had very few partners.

So my advice to myself and to Spot1021 is relax. Take action, but take it slow. Work towards changing yourself into the person you want to be rather than rushing into the opposite because it briefly looks appealing. Think things through, and then later on think it through again. Figure out the answer to kangaeru's question, "what do you stand for?"

07-19-2007, 03:52 AM	#38 (permalink)
ForgottenKnight Jesus Freak Location: Following the light...	I'm going to jump in here and say something for the first time in a very long time. First, thank you all who responded to Spot1021's post. Second, I would like to say I'm in a similar situation. I'm 24. I'll turn 25 in a few weeks and being a virgin at 25 started to scare the crap out of me. Long story short, I was questioning every belief I normally stand for and was going to abandon some of them just to have sex with a stranger from the casual encounters section of craigslist. I would like to note that she is probably one of the hottest woman (and hottest asses) I have ever seen a photo of, and would have been fulfilling her fantasy in order to have sex. But I no longer think that a one night stand, or a series of such, is something I really want to do. My very good friend MrRevolver and I were chatting and we concluded that to answer some of my questions I should look here. But instead of finding the answer to the question I came here looking for, the question I have been asking myself and choosing to ignore has been presented. Kangaeru said it best, "What do you stand for?" And in reading all the responses, I came to realize the answer to the question before it was even asked. What do I stand for? While I may have to still sort out a few things, I know what I don't stand for: what I was about to become. I almost rushed into a lifestyle I partly idealized and partly hated, without thinking of the consequences. I started taking action without thinking it through, and had I continued along the lines of those actions, I would have ended up regretting it. I have some friends who push me to go get laid despite my resistance (and really bad luck at the bars when I did try) have slowly refined some of my social skills, but at the same time were turning me to become just like them. They were only looking at the recreational side of sex, but not the fact that they're all single, not able to hold down a lasting relationship, single parents or paying child support, and fighting with their exes. And I was seeing only the number of years old I was and looking at it from their views and beliefs, but not my own. Their want for me to join them in having sex all the time with random people for the pleasure of it is not what I really want. I'd rather have the pure long lasting relationships of some of my other friends who abstain from sex before marriage or had very few partners. So my advice to myself and to Spot1021 is relax. Take action, but take it slow. Work towards changing yourself into the person you want to be rather than rushing into the opposite because it briefly looks appealing. Think things through, and then later on think it through again. Figure out the answer to kangaeru's question, "what do you stand for?" __________________ "People say I'm strange, does that make me a stranger?"