kangaeru

In my own personal experience, it took finding my own inner confidence to get over the hump for the first time. I was 19 at the time, but I had been through my first year of college and thought I might be doomed.

I had however done everything else besides sex in my high school days so maybe sex didn't seem AS significant to me.

But, like Martian said, the root of this problem is the trouble you find socializing. The thing you've got to face is that you fear rejection from others, and your avoidance of this unpleasantness causes you to make no friends. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

You've got to find some kind of core confidence to drawn upon. You've got to say to yourself, "I like myself. If this person doesn't like me, I don't give a fuck. I didn't know them before this moment, I will forget them five minutes from now. Life goes on."

When you can do that, you'll be able to define yourself to other people, and you'll find people who like you will just gravitate towards you. Either way, you need some kind of innate self-belief to shield you from being hurt by rejection or you're always going to doubt yourself because you have no strong sense of self-identity.

What do you stand for?

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