I have to answer this in two ways:
Online:
There are certain things that would take a dissertation-length reply to explain thoroughly and exactly enough to avoid misunderstanding in the intent of the words. We have no "voice" on the internet, so we rely only on the thrust of our written words.
Therefore, online, I am still as honest as I am in general, but I sometimes have to change the way I'd say something and "water it down" a bit because there's simply no way of saying what I intend without causing almost certain misunderstanding.
Real life:
My personality, and the way I conduct myself, pretty much seem to give me carte blanch in speaking honestly about everything. Whatever it is that makes me "me" gives me the ability to say pretty much anything I want out of honesty, without troubles. People know that when I say something they don't want to hear, I'm saying it with sincerity and concern, and because it needed to be said.
My best example is telling a female friend of mine that she was the oldest 22 year old I'd ever met, because she was pretty much void of fun, kept more to herself, etc... essentially like an old person who stays inside and doesn't talk to anyone. Because of how I presented it, and how I said it, it eventually resulted in giving her a complete 180. She was "mad" at me for maybe a few days or so, but then she had a personal epiphany and that was that... looking back on it, she still brings it up to others in conversation that it was the best advice she'd ever gotten, and made her the very outgoing and VERY happy person that she is today. It pretty much turned her life around.
But believe me- without proper delivery, it would have been some truly, truly mean and messed up stuff to tell a person.
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