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analog · 07-11-2007, 12:42 AM

So here's the thing... there's a girl I like. I think she likes me as well.

Well, I'm not totally sure about that. I think she does, but mainly because she recently asked me what I was doing after work one night, and I think it was because she was trying to find an "in" to talk about going somewhere.

That's neither here nor there, though... what I'm interested in talking about is the concept of sex vs. fucking. I have a little apprehension about starting anything with her, even though I like her and she's attractive and all.

The issue is, I want to fuck her, but I think she's a bit more sexually conservative and would be more comfortable with "sex".

For some people, their normal setting for sex is "fucking"- for others (perhaps for more people), it's simply "sex". The difference is that having sex is what we all call sex- fucking someone is that extra level of energy and enthusiasm that differentiates a snacking-level sexual appetite and a sexual appetite on par with gorging oneself at an all-you-can-eat joint.

I'm enthusiastic and high-energy, and I have no qualms about showing it or being a sexual person. I'm afraid that she's a bit more sexually conservative, to the point that I'm afraid if we even tried anything, it wouldn't work out based on sex incompatibility alone.

As for my personal situation, she's a great chick but I just don't know about starting something with her. And before anyone jumps in my ass, I'm not "guessing" that she's sexually conservative, I've known her for like a year. It's the cumulative knowledge gathered over that time that leads me to that opinion.

For all the rest of you, are you a person who has sex, or fucks? When you get into bed (or maybe bend over a couch or bathroom sink) with your s.o., girlfriend, or random partner, are you looking to fuck, or just have sex?

Do you think making such a distinction is ridiculous? Wish me luck that i'm not imagining her hitting on me. Though it doesn't happen all that often- for all the times I thought I was getting hit on by a woman, the number of times that turned out to be accurate is annoyingly low.

07-11-2007, 12:42 AM	#1 (permalink)
analog Banned	Sex vs. Fucking... So here's the thing... there's a girl I like. I think she likes me as well. Well, I'm not totally sure about that. I think she does, but mainly because she recently asked me what I was doing after work one night, and I think it was because she was trying to find an "in" to talk about going somewhere. That's neither here nor there, though... what I'm interested in talking about is the concept of sex vs. fucking. I have a little apprehension about starting anything with her, even though I like her and she's attractive and all. The issue is, I want to fuck her, but I think she's a bit more sexually conservative and would be more comfortable with "sex". For some people, their normal setting for sex is "fucking"- for others (perhaps for more people), it's simply "sex". The difference is that having sex is what we all call sex- fucking someone is that extra level of energy and enthusiasm that differentiates a snacking-level sexual appetite and a sexual appetite on par with gorging oneself at an all-you-can-eat joint. I'm enthusiastic and high-energy, and I have no qualms about showing it or being a sexual person. I'm afraid that she's a bit more sexually conservative, to the point that I'm afraid if we even tried anything, it wouldn't work out based on sex incompatibility alone. As for my personal situation, she's a great chick but I just don't know about starting something with her. And before anyone jumps in my ass, I'm not "guessing" that she's sexually conservative, I've known her for like a year. It's the cumulative knowledge gathered over that time that leads me to that opinion. For all the rest of you, are you a person who has sex, or fucks? When you get into bed (or maybe bend over a couch or bathroom sink) with your s.o., girlfriend, or random partner, are you looking to fuck, or just have sex? Do you think making such a distinction is ridiculous? Wish me luck that i'm not imagining her hitting on me. Though it doesn't happen all that often- for all the times I thought I was getting hit on by a woman, the number of times that turned out to be accurate is annoyingly low.