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I had an ex of 2 years from high school.
He had waited for me to be done with hs and to go to college in his hometown, Wichita Falls, so I could be with him. I never even applied to the school there, instead Texas Tech because my mom and dad wouldn't let me shortcut my education for some asshole.
Once he found out I was going to Tech, it was over. He wasn't willing to even try to make it work. And looking back on it now, I'm glad it ended. He was selfish, irresponsible, and an overall menace to my life.
So I ended it. It hurt, and I put it off and put it off but my friends made me realize I deserved someone better in life and it was NOT him. He wasn't planning on making a future with me, he planned on me doing everything and him just going along for the ride. fucking loser...anyway, I loved myself more by making that discision to get him out of my life just like you did.
It hurts so much when you're with someone who doesn't plan a future with you even though they may care a great deal for you.
I hope that helps in some way.
You've made the right decision by loving yourself and your needs more than him. Bravo.
As for the friends bit...give it some time. Go to the gym regularly and work your ass off working out, makes you feel AWESOME!
My ex was really bad about calling and calling and asking what he did wrong and all these things so I just cut him off.
I don't talk to him anymore.
But with yours, cut the ties for now but maybe a friendship is still possible.
Hopefully he did not verbally abuse you like mine did.
*HUGS*
You'll be fine, your heart will heal itself and you'll be a stronger person for it.
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