Martian

Quoted for truth, and for hilarity.

Also true. However, I will state this now, so that it's been said. None of the guys here should be going to any brothels because your problem isn't actually your virginity; rather, it's the underlying issue that leads to your virginity, which is a lack of socialization. Attack the root issue, not the symptom.


So a big ol' welcome to Kate M, who with this post has established herself as a woman of much sagacity. I'd like to follow that up though and say that I don't think there's really even much porn that teaches you the mechanics of it effectively; I'm reasonably sure that if I were to attempt some of the positions seen in porn films, I'd either throw out my back or pop a knee out of place or have something similarly catastrophic happen.

Porn is fantasy. It's set up to be an ideal, and with good reason. If you're looking to get your rocks off, you probably don't want to see the bloke accidently smash his head off the bookshelf or the pair of them fall off the bed. You don't want to see the goofy orgasm faces people really make, so they make fake ones instead. Real women rarely look like that, real women do not make those faces or noises. Real women don't generally enjoy you doing your impression of a jackhammer on their cervix.

Real sex is fun. It's also funny, messy and a bit absurd. What it is not, ever, is what you see in porno flicks. So go on and get that idea right out of your head.

There's really not that much to know, except that you need to communicate and pay attention to your partner. If you can keep those two things in mind you've already learned everything you'll ever need to know about sex (and relationships in general, for that matter).

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