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Originally Posted by Kpax
Wow judging by these posts one would think that the solution is merely the effort away.
I think there is the possibility that some of us just weren't meant to have fun, and I'm really speaking for myself mainly. I hope I'm not the only one on the planet. It's hard to start from scratch and gather a group of friends, and even harder if you want that group to include a romantic aspect.
I mean, cliques are tight, and a lot of factors are involved in just who is able to just walk right into a circle. You have to have neutral looks, and a friendly personality, and looks that make that personality look friendly. W/out those, it's all uphill.
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You know it is hard, it is very hard.
Last year I moved to a new city and literally didn't know anyone there apart from my two flat mates that I moved up with.
Because there were lots of things I enjoyed doing, but could never find anyone to do them with. So I decided to just grow some balls and do them by myself, not only that, but enjoy doing stuff by myself.
So I'd go to a lot of live gigs alone, if I felt bored or lonely, I would force myself to strike up a conversation with total randoms. Slowly I started to get much better at this, and very slowly started to get to know people who would show up to the same gigs and seemed to share my passion for live music.
Now, at the end of last year I moved city again. I knew a few more people down here already, but I started to meet a hell of a lot more new people and make some decent friends because of a certain internet forum I spent a lot of time in. Essentially, it was a community of people that all shared a common interest for tech, and we were all from very different back grounds. But we all liked to come out to the city and meet up with each other and have fun. So that was one way I started to meet a lot of good people.
Meeting new people can be a daunting and scary thought, but the more you push yourself out of your social comfort zone, the easier it gets. And not just to meet people, but also get to know them. One of the biggest things i found was your confidence in myself sky rocketed, and man, since I've really found my feet and started to become very comfortable about who I am, I'm getting way more attention from girls than I ever had before. People really take notice of someone they can tell is confident about themselves.
You just gotta put yourself out there and do something that YOU enjoy doing and are comfortable with. But, you should be prepared to place yourself in awkward and difficult social situations in order to learn more about yourself. Once you start getting yourself out there you'll start to find other aspects of your life start to fall into place....with a little bit of effort of course
